tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215101825292415335.post5252424432125158226..comments2023-07-15T10:07:19.758-04:00Comments on My Spouse Is Dead: PresenceVichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12604449367265697562noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215101825292415335.post-73272468766381507602014-11-15T09:07:36.113-05:002014-11-15T09:07:36.113-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04479353188870433094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215101825292415335.post-20478158232577471622014-04-26T09:50:37.521-04:002014-04-26T09:50:37.521-04:00don't worry. You will experience the most horr...don't worry. You will experience the most horrific grief you can ever imagine.<br /> just wait, it will come. it did for me. my husband died of ALS Lou Gherigs disease. it's been 3 years, and fuck, I still haven't started dating yet. This hate and grief thing sucks!<br />it can consume you. i will probably kill myself.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215101825292415335.post-63185515502395699142010-11-21T13:50:09.658-05:002010-11-21T13:50:09.658-05:00Hello. I am so sorry for your loss. I am current...Hello. I am so sorry for your loss. I am currently grieving because my divorce resulted in my children being moved 1600 miles from me. I respectfully submit that you should change the words 'leaving me' on your profile to 'and I became a single parent' or something along those lines. Sincerely, Sam aka ParlemortParlemorthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00081784724333374271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215101825292415335.post-67305863636085682552010-08-10T00:42:29.041-04:002010-08-10T00:42:29.041-04:00Hi Anonymous,
I'm very sorry for your loss.
...Hi Anonymous,<br /><br />I'm very sorry for your loss.<br /><br />I'm glad this blog has been helpful to you. I think I get what you are talking about regarding relinquishing hope. I remember the day shortly after Deb died that I processed the fact that hope was dead also. I had always held out hope that somehow she would recover, but now even hope was pointless. <br /><br />Despair, now that was something I did not relinquish until I learned to meditate :-)<br /><br />Thanks for helping to encourage others to quiet their minds as well. It made a huge difference for me. Actually, it made all the difference.<br /><br />Take care,<br /><br />VicVichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12604449367265697562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215101825292415335.post-20440805452464526262010-07-26T18:00:48.482-04:002010-07-26T18:00:48.482-04:00I lost my partner in March 2010. I found this blo...I lost my partner in March 2010. I found this blog very helpful. I had practised meditation sporadically over the course of many years. I started to meditate regularly, twice a day, in June. This allowed me to stay calmer, and to succeed more often at living in the present, and more importantly, not dwelling on the life I used to have and comparing it to the present. I am at a strange juncture, where I think I have relinquished both hope and despair, to a large extent. But it feels very odd, and takes some getting used to. But I highly recommend stilling the mind, in some way, and making a concerted effort to remain in the present moment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com