tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215101825292415335.post528499864510133801..comments2023-07-15T10:07:19.758-04:00Comments on My Spouse Is Dead: Why Grief HurtsVichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12604449367265697562noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215101825292415335.post-11895647748248751492012-12-10T21:14:53.498-05:002012-12-10T21:14:53.498-05:00BTW
I still come back to your site and examine wr...BTW<br /><br />I still come back to your site and examine writings. It has been some 5 months now since my love died. <br /><br />Some of the things I read there seem more agreeable now than they did when I first read them. However clearly we percieve the world differently and our "feelings" in "feeling out our grief" are different.<br /><br />But none the less thanks for your site.<br /><br />I agree that Grief provides the opportunity to learn. I have spent a lot of time recently covering the love my wife and I shared.<br /><br />Robert Heinlein wrote: Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.<br /><br />On that subject I put on my own blog: To me at least a significant part of love is trust, trust that extends beyond lending your material things. People often talk about giving of yourself, but what does that mean? Time? Energy? <br /><br />To give the other person power over yourself is what I think its about. obakesanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743339737847465926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215101825292415335.post-75542354895769918552012-12-10T21:09:25.233-05:002012-12-10T21:09:25.233-05:00Hi
you wrote: If we accept this view, it would se...Hi<br /><br />you wrote: If we accept this view, it would seem that the pain we experience when we grieve is an avoidance signal that is telling us to change our behavior.<br /><br />but I disagree. I mean logically what behaviour needs changing? When my lovely wife died it was not cause by my behaviour (she had a brain tumor).<br /><br />I believe that we suffer pain simply because the emotions are tied up with that part of the brain.<br /><br />I believe its more related to things which would keep us in our comittment relationship, and that if we try to leave it we feel pain.<br /><br />Sadly there is the problem it causes when we did not choose to part.<br /><br />obakesanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743339737847465926noreply@blogger.com